“During my practical, clinical work I noticed that women have very strong opinions regarding men’s ejaculation — and I am not speaking about the clinical criteria that most research usually focuses on such as … how long the man can control or prolong his ejaculation,” study author Andrea Burri of the European Institute for Sexual Health told PsyPost. “Here, we are talking about other ‘non-clinically relevant’ aspects, such as how much ejaculate he expels, or how loudly he moans....

Likely one of the biggest costs you’ll find in your future: daycare. Once you and your partner get back to work, daycare is a regular expense and can really hit the wallet hard. “Daycare runs the equivalent of a rent or mortgage payment on a monthly basis,” says Mark Boujikan, CFP, financial planner with Keymark Financial. “In many cases, you get what you pay for. Finding cheaper childcare means getting lower quality service, and many parents aren’t willing to make that trade off....

While there are certainly ways to keep the average costs of divorce down, it depends on the nature of the case. Every divorce is different and has a specific set of circumstances at play that requires a specific set of expertise and service to see it through. If you want things to go right, that expertise and professional service do not come cheap. The Average Cost of Divorce While the price of divorce varies state by state, experts estimate that the average cost of divorce starts with “E” and ends with “xpensive....

For parents in particular, finding the time and energy for sex is a Herculean challenge, one complicated by the constant presence of kids, unpredictable workday schedules, and the general responsibilities of maintaining a household. But how severely has sex changed during the pandemic? We asked 14 parents — both moms and dads — to tell us. Some spoke of serious sexual dry spells or deeper issues, others of Zoom sex and (safe) hotel rendezvous....

From April through June 2020, we surveyed 152 parents – primarily mothers – in Detroit, Michigan, who were managing the new demands of remote schooling for their children. Not surprisingly, they reported high levels of anxiety (34%) and depression (27%) during this stressful period, but some indicated that support from their child’s school played an important role in reducing their mental health difficulties. Generally speaking, the more school support parents in our survey felt they had received, the less anxiety and depression they reported....

It takes time to learn how to calm down, to recompose yourself and return to being the parent your kids need you to be. Each of us has to find the method that works. That’s why we asked 14 dads how they calm down when they’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed by their kids. One has a “screaming pillow”; others go for walks, sit in designated chairs, or devote a specific time during the day to decompressing and thinking about the various button-pusing events that took place....

The good news is also the bad news: Nothing is permanent. Names can change. It’s an inconvenient legal process that may necessitate multiple inconvenient trips to government offices, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible or not worth the time. The question is when does this change become a problem for the kid? Babies don’t care, but young Rocketship Fahrenheit Lopez is gonna be very confused if people start suddenly calling him Pete....

While more and more people are addressing their mental health by attending therapy, there’s still a stigma — especially among men. Many push aside the thought of seeking a therapist for the mere fear of being judged or labeled. Blame longstanding notions of traditional manhood. “Men are significantly more likely to refrain from therapy due to stereotypical themes of masculinity,” says Washington-based therapist Leda Kaveh. The irony of it all is that therapy is an excellent resource fo men who have been socialized not to talk about their feelings, work through issues, or examine moments where they feel angry or vulnerable....

How Does A Perineal Massage Help? According to prenatal massage therapist and doula Sara Lyon, author of The Birth Deck, the term massage is something of a misnomer. Giving perineal massage isn’t like kneading the back muscles into submission. It’s far more subtle. “The vagina and the birth canal is not an inert hole,” Lyon says. “It’s not like a piece of meat. It’s a sphincter. It can open. The circular muscle fibers can relax....

Buying the right Mother’s Day flowers, however, takes skill. You can’t just grab a bunch of carnations and all it a day. That’s lame, man. And, no, you definitely shouldn’t stroll into the gas station or bodega and grab the first plastic-wrapped bouquet you pass. Mother’s Day flowers require some thought and planning to really nail. So, before you grab a Mother’s Day, here are eight tips for picking out the most beautiful arrangement of flowers she says she really doesn’t want....

So we should. The world would be very boring if all everyone said was “good point” every time you post a hot take. Being agreed with makes nobody think harder about their own beliefs. Too much agreement creates the false impression that everyone thinks the same way you do. In theory, then, the open nature of social media should make us all smarter and more empathetic. This was certainly the vision of its founders....

READ MORE: The Fatherly Guide to Raising Brothers and Sisters “My way of thinking is that our society just doesn’t have standards and norms that say siblings should not be hitting each other,” says Feinberg. “At least not in the way we have the same kind of standards and norms around couples.” Though other social standards for physical aggression among family members have changed — it’s now widely accepted you shouldn’t spank your kid for punishment–the idea that it’s normal for brothers and sisters to hit each other has not really shifted....

Re-Evaluate Everything “The best financial advice I got when I became a parent was to re-evaluate everything. You’ll want to go over everything with a fine-tooth comb, because — guess what? Your life has completely changed. Why wouldn’t your finances, too? Start your analysis in this order: Make sure that you have an emergency fund that can cover 6 months of expenses, then attack your retirement fund. Get the company match through your retirement fund, then take action on a 529 plan....

“A father usually responds to his daughter, especially his first child, as ‘my little girl,’” explains Dr. Kathryn Smerling, a psychotherapist who works with families, adults, and teenagers. “They have an idealized sense of what their relationship with their daughter is. That’s fine for the first years of a daughter’s life. But when a young girl starts to individuate, the relationship shifts. Because no longer is it ‘little girl and father....

Sounds like bliss, right? But before you get to the fun part, you have to plan the vacation with your partner. That entails decisions, competing expectations, and constraints you probably didn’t see coming. If you’re not careful, planning a family getaway can become another source of the stress you’re trying to escape. Family vacations involve a lot of choices. On top of deciding where to go and when, you’ll need to set a budget, figure out how to get there, and choose activities....

Prep Time: About 10 minutes Entertainment Time: 20 minutes or moreEnergy Expended by Child: Minimal What You Need: A medium-sized cardboard box that’s been opened at the topA box cutter or something sharp to cut into the box (Grownups only!)Markers, glitter glue, stickers, feathers – whatever crafts you like.Trinkets from around the house How to Play: Ask your child to decorate the cardboard box as desired (and let any sticky crafts dry), transforming it into a magical keeper of secrets....

My wife is an American from Colorado. I’m a Frenchman from Paris. Our son was born in Manhattan in 2016. That day, he was granted both countries’ passports. Easy enough. But the hard part was yet to come: he now had to learn both our languages. And if he had to learn, it meant we had to teach him. This story was submitted by a Fatherly reader. Opinions expressed in the story do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Fatherly as a publication....

It is easy for us to forget about the sensitivity and emotional complexity of boys, and to mistakenly believe they are hearty enough to weather the inevitable cruelties of their peers and the world. This simplistic notion is echoed in John Mayer’s song “Daughters.” After chronicling the way a girl can be hurt, he notes the difference for boys: “Boys you can break/you find out how much they can take/ Boys will be strong/ and boys soldier on…” While he notes that boys will be ‘gone without the warmth of a good woman,’ there is little emphasis on how boys, by their own nature and in their relationship with other boys and men, have the capacity and right to be vulnerable....

These days, phones are more powerful than the computers used to land men on the moon, and the American industrial machine is increasingly run by robots. This means that career aspirations and opportunities have evolved well beyond the factory floor. It also means a social safety net that served 3 generations pretty well is pretty badly frayed. If you just started melting melting down your wife’s jewelry, stop. While you shouldn’t necessarily count on a traditional retirement, a future in which you keep working in some form or another isn’t necessarily a bad thing....

But how can parents take what they’ve learned, enjoyed, and regretted about sex and share that wisdom in a way that their kids will eventually find helpful — without it being totally awkward? “I think there are three kinds of parents. There are the parents who totally have ostrich syndrome, which means they bury their heads in the sand. Then there are the oversharing parents, the parents who think that their kids are their best friends,” says Lea Lis, M....