Being a parent is nothing new, but when you were going to an office, separating your two lives was easier. Women have been handling this duality seemingly forever, but you’re new to it and its disconcerting. “There’s exposure as a working parent. You have to contend with that now. You never had to deal with it before,” says Danna Greenberg, professor of organizational behavior at Babson College and co-author of Maternal Optimism....

My wife is 35 weeks pregnant with our second kid and we’re slowly approaching our due date. We hired a doula a little over a month ago, but I’ve been having some serious problems with her. Our first kid was delivered in a hospital by a doctor, we didn’t have a midwife or anything and we both kind of found the experience too clinical and cold. So this time around my wife wanted to try a natural birth with a midwife and she convinced me that a doula would help because they support both of us in the delivery room....

So how do you keep your toddler in bed? For some parents, a toddler that won’t stay in bed is less of an issue. They have an open bed policy, and it doesn’t matter where their toddler sleeps as long as their toddler is sleeping. For other parents, alone time is crucial, and learning how to keep a toddler in bed is a top priority. Enter yet another round of sleep training — toddler edition....

RELATED: The Road Trip Essentials And Gear You Need For Your Next Family Vacation How prepared should parents be? Well, that depends a great deal on their lifestyle and how far they typically travel from a home base. That said there are baby emergency kit must-haves (and a couple optional extras) that can be packed in a duffel, extra diaper bag, or plastic tote that would make even the pessimistic Kafka feel at ease....

If you’ve started saving money well before your 30th birthday, you’re okay diverting 10 percent of your income toward retirement, says Alicia Klein, a financial adviser based in Tucson, Arizona, and a member of the Alliance of Comprehensive Planners. But for everyone else — and it sounds like you’re included — you should really bump that number up to 15 percent. It may give you some solace to know that you’re not exactly alone when it comes to a skinny investment account....

One thing: They can’t hold out. You could put them in front of a screen but you know that’s not the most productive or healthiest approach. What they need is structure, an after school routine that is recurring and comfortable but flexible enough to not feel rigid. “It gives children a sense of comfort and a context to regulate their own behaviors,” says Jill Trumbell, assistant professor of human development and family studies at University of New Hampshire....

When you view an outcome as either success or failure you’re guilty of what’s known as “all-or-nothing thinking.” This is unhelpful for a number of reasons and needs to be corrected. Binary code is great for computation, but it’s crippling for self-assessment and a hindrance to decision-making. It limits your ability to perceive reality. You only see black and white in a world teeming with varying shades of gray. Worst of all, you’re setting yourself up to fail....

In a best-case scenario, planning ahead is key when having these conversations. A premature or overly pessimistic discussion about how we’re collectively wrecking the natural world can leave kids feeling disillusioned and disempowered. But we shouldn’t lie to them, either. After all, the world we’re leaving them with will have all of the problems that we have created. So we need to do all we can to keep them optimistic — and informed....

There’s actually a strategic approach to a child’s fear of water that almost invariably works, says Carolanne Caron, a water safety expert who specializes in helping people with a fear of water. It starts in the tub, and it includes something many parents are already pretty good at: playing peek-a-boo. “The child should be looking up to the ceiling when washing their hair so the soap doesn’t go into their eyes,” says Caron....

The Decorations for a Black Panther Birthday Party Yes, Wakanda, the fictional African country the Black Panther rules over is supposed to be in Sub-Saharan Africa. A big portion of the movie is all about T’challa getting control of the throne, so you can try out some tribal mask decorations like these murals. Wakanda is also ‘techno-jungle’ — a mysterious place filled with wild animals and high tech gizmos. Dim the lights and string fake cobwebs between inflatable palm trees, with a few plastic spears on the walls....

Fast-forward a few years and the statement tie is still here, albeit toned down a bit. Or, rather, a lot. Case-in-point is Nope actor Steven Yeun and his Prada statement tie. Instead of a loud design that screams, “Hey, look at me!” from between the satiny drapes of his suit jacket, our eyes are drawn to the smaller, simpler design of two pink hibiscus flowers positioned at the center of the tie....

How did you wind up doing porn? I got into the industry much later than a lot of people. I was 28 when I first started. I thought performing would be a temporary thing I did for some side money, but it ended up turning into this wonderful, amazing experience. What’s your schedule like today? Right now, I do 9-to-5 work. I work as a web developer and programmer at a porn company, Kink....

My wife has suggested that I propose a solution. Now, I’m concerned that I’m going to damage our relationship by doing so. I’m considering asking her for an open relationship (one-sided, which… I know) or for the chance to travel on my own or for the chance to quit my job and start something new, which would require rethinking our budgets. As you can tell, I’m not of one mind about this thing....

I started playing drums when I was a teenager, about 20 years ago. As I got older, I got away from it a little bit. Life got in the way. Going to school, getting married, having a family. All that stuff. But after having kids, things settled down a bit. I realized I had time to do stuff like that again. And then we moved to our first house. We started going to a new church, and they had a choir, and a drum set, and I said, ‘Oh, well I play....

At first glance, the Skycamp could be mistaken for any hard-shell rooftop car carrier. It’s sleek and aerodynamic, comes in glossy black or white, and stands 12.6-inches tall closed; slap on a ski resort sticker and nobody’s the wiser. Pop open the expandable roof tent, however, and damnnnn … prepare to be blown away. To set it up, literally all you have to do is slide out the integrated telescopic ladder and extended floor, pull it down to the ground, and raise the entrance canopy....

As you prep for filing and gather your documents, you need to watch the mail for two letters from the IRS—letter 6419 and letter 6475. Letter 6419 contains information regarding your Advanced Child Tax Credit payments, the $300 or $350 parents received per child per month from July to December, and Letter 6475 is all about that third pandemic stimulus check. Both are necessary, so keep your eyes peeled for their arrival....

Ahead of the long-awaited release of the “Snyder Cut” of Justice League, director Zack Snyder has sent two messages: You can probably go see a 4-hour-version of the movie in theaters at the same time it’s on HBO Max, and also, Batman is gonna say “fuck.” In certain corners of the internet, this news was celebrated and mocked in peculiarly similar ways. The hardcore Snyder-loyalists think this sounds awesome, and the people sick of the hardcore Snyder-heads think those people are dumb for thinking this sounds awesome....

Who you gonna call to direct a Ghostbusters sequel? The answer is Jason Reitman, the son of Ghostbusters and Ghostbusters II director Ivan Reitman! Jason is an acclaimed filmmaker in his own right, with Thank You for Smoking, Juno, Up in the Air, and Young Adult among his most memorable efforts. And, in many ways, he’s the heir apparent, even if a visual effects-laden supernatural family comedy doesn’t immediately strike one as up his alley....

I suppose this says something about who I became. Some might say that yet another John vs. Paul argument is frivolous and those people would be correct, but that doesn’t mean it’s entirely uninteresting. Without getting too much into Beatles lore — remember when John wrote “How Do You Sleep?” about hating Paul, after a legal fight in 1971? — it suffices to say that true Beatles fans often feel compelled to take a side....

The Kentucky law will officially allow both parents to have an equal chance at receiving partial or full custody of their kids, depending on the court’s discernment. Erin Wilkins, a divorce attorney in Northern Kentucky, told WLWT5 that while the practice of joint custody has been an unwritten rule in the state for the past few years, it will still be beneficial to have an official law in place. “If you are an attorney practicing in Boone, Kenton, or Campbell County, [joint custody] is something that judges here have been doing for years,” Wilkins said....